One thing is absolutely certainty when doing adventuresome things: stuff will happen as a result that you don’t anticipate. Good stuff too, not just bad stuff. Godzillavilla is a case in point with its unanticipated, heartwarming social interactions, along with its vastly greater than anticipated sucking-up of money.
When I set out on an adventure, even a little one, I try to imagine everything that might happen. The wonderful and the terrible. But here’s what I’ve found I need to wrap my head around most in order to make any leap:
I CANNOT IMAGINE EVERYTHING.
Part of the fabulous, freeing, life-affirming goodness of adventure is that it shows us we can go with the flow, adapt and cope, and – wait for it – give up some control. A lot of practical people are loath to give up control. I’m one of them. But I’m coming to believe that it’s actually infinitely practical to do so.
Truth is, you can’t control everything, and trying to just saps your energy and makes you a nervous wreck. When you give it up, even just a little, you gain time for more important, fulfilling and useful things. Plus sanity, and that’s a big plus. You learn to roll with the punches, which means every time stuff does happen to you that you hadn’t planned on (because it does), you get better and better at dealing with it –speedily and positively.
I’m liking this idea of the practicality of losing control. I’m finding it quite liberating.
I’ve come to live by something Shelagh: It’s not what happens it’s how we deal with it that really makes the difference. The only certainty seems to be that we cannot know how things will turn out. What forces will align, diverge to trip us up. Even though we thought the risk was tripping was low. We were careful and anticipated things…. I used to think that way. Rather I still do dewspite myself. But life has a way of reminding me. Your lessons from Italy are a gift for all of us. x
Julia Grant said:
Like the jamming! Definitely looks like fun.
Really scary initially. I usually sing Bach with 40 other voices masking mine in an early music choir, so it was quite a shift to be miked and solo. But the guys in the band were great and it was a blast to cut loose. Even though it looks like I’m in pain!